04-02-2004, 10:18 PM
Shells and Perse
I am so sorry to read what has happend to both of you. I have has 9 miscarriages and have felt the same guilt. The worst thing is that no one could tell me WHY this kept on happening. I was just told it is just one of those things. I eventually went for tests and it was discovered that it was a hormonal deficiency that caused me to miscarry in the early stages of my pregnancies. When I discovered I was pregnant with my daughter I was here in the UK and they put me on injections which I had to have every week to maintain the pregnancy. The specialist told me that this was the most common cause of misscarriage in the early part of pregnancy apart from nature taking its course.
I dont know how far pregnant you were, but I had 2 more miscarriages late in my pregnancy the last one was at 28 weeks. This was put down to an incompetent cervix and total negligence of my DR. I should have been given a stitch after the initial danger period of the pregnancy. I know that my baby could have been saved if I was not left to go through a natural labour of 18 hours. I was so full of guilt because I felt that I should have insisted that I have that stitch and I should have changed Drs. All the time while I was in labour I asked to have a cesaerian. I should have DEMANDED another doctor. I guess a lot of it was due to ignorance. You think that the trained medical staff know better.
I urge anyone who is worried about anything at all to DEMAND explanations and if they feel that something is amiss, INSIST on a second opinion. If anything is worrying you, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem, if it is enough to worry you, it is worth an answer.
I went through stages of blaming myself and then hatred towards the Dr until I reached rock bottom. It took ages, but with the help of a support group I came to terms with it, but I have never forgotten my babies. I would like to think that one day I will be able to hold each one of them.
If either of you or anyone else who has miscarried a few times plan to have another baby, ask to have a hormone level test. There are times when u miscarry because there is an abnormaility, but usually if you have repeated miscarriages, it could mean that there is something medically wrong that can be fixed to prevent them.
Both of you and all the other ladies who have gone through this pain are in my thoughts and prayers.
If you feel up to it, join a support group, they really do help you and your hubbys.
I am so sorry to read what has happend to both of you. I have has 9 miscarriages and have felt the same guilt. The worst thing is that no one could tell me WHY this kept on happening. I was just told it is just one of those things. I eventually went for tests and it was discovered that it was a hormonal deficiency that caused me to miscarry in the early stages of my pregnancies. When I discovered I was pregnant with my daughter I was here in the UK and they put me on injections which I had to have every week to maintain the pregnancy. The specialist told me that this was the most common cause of misscarriage in the early part of pregnancy apart from nature taking its course.
I dont know how far pregnant you were, but I had 2 more miscarriages late in my pregnancy the last one was at 28 weeks. This was put down to an incompetent cervix and total negligence of my DR. I should have been given a stitch after the initial danger period of the pregnancy. I know that my baby could have been saved if I was not left to go through a natural labour of 18 hours. I was so full of guilt because I felt that I should have insisted that I have that stitch and I should have changed Drs. All the time while I was in labour I asked to have a cesaerian. I should have DEMANDED another doctor. I guess a lot of it was due to ignorance. You think that the trained medical staff know better.
I urge anyone who is worried about anything at all to DEMAND explanations and if they feel that something is amiss, INSIST on a second opinion. If anything is worrying you, no matter how small or insignificant it may seem, if it is enough to worry you, it is worth an answer.
I went through stages of blaming myself and then hatred towards the Dr until I reached rock bottom. It took ages, but with the help of a support group I came to terms with it, but I have never forgotten my babies. I would like to think that one day I will be able to hold each one of them.
If either of you or anyone else who has miscarried a few times plan to have another baby, ask to have a hormone level test. There are times when u miscarry because there is an abnormaility, but usually if you have repeated miscarriages, it could mean that there is something medically wrong that can be fixed to prevent them.
Both of you and all the other ladies who have gone through this pain are in my thoughts and prayers.
If you feel up to it, join a support group, they really do help you and your hubbys.