25-05-2006, 05:52 PM
New Beginning Wrote:I am sure there are others out there who have had to cope with the loss of a loved one from afar. To start at the beginning. I lost my eldest brother in a freak air crash 30 June 04. I had only just returned from SA, having spent 3 weeks with him over there. I went over for 2 weeks for the funeral and the like, but I have not been able to come to terms with his loss. My other brother, who used to see him every day (they both had businesses at Lanseria airport), has accepted it all. I sometimes think it is because I'm so far away that I tell myself it is not really true and in this way push it to the back of mind until it surfaces again. How on earth am I going to come to accept it all? I think my husband feels a bit helpless at times like these. :wall: Any help out there?
So sorry about your loss New Beginning :hug: yes i have experienced it too, in 2001 i was in SA when my Dad passed away, i consider myself lucky to have spent the last few days with him, but then i had to come home and move house, which was very very traumatic...dealing with grief from far is not a nice thing, to this day i am still battling to get over his death and time only heals - give yourself time - it will not happen overnight!
Do you think you might want to chat to a bereavement counsellor - sometimes it helps to talk to a stranger.
If you want to chat, feel free to pm me. :hug: