25-05-2006, 11:27 PM
New Beginning Wrote:I am sure there are others out there who have had to cope with the loss of a loved one from afar. To start at the beginning. I lost my eldest brother in a freak air crash 30 June 04. I had only just returned from SA, having spent 3 weeks with him over there. I went over for 2 weeks for the funeral and the like, but I have not been able to come to terms with his loss. My other brother, who used to see him every day (they both had businesses at Lanseria airport), has accepted it all. I sometimes think it is because I'm so far away that I tell myself it is not really true and in this way push it to the back of mind until it surfaces again. How on earth am I going to come to accept it all? I think my husband feels a bit helpless at times like these. :wall: Any help out there?
Very sorry about ur loss NB :hug: .. Time will do it ;-) ... Some just need longer. Give yourself as long as u need. It probably is the distance that has kept it going longer .. but you'll get there eventually. My BIL was murdered in SA and I was here. It was very traumatic and what made it worse was to know how my sister (his wife) was battling all alone .. no siblings near by to comfort her. But she has started to move on now (it's 3 yrs this month) .. and you will too. Hang in there ... talking and crying about it is theraputic ;-)