11-08-2006, 07:59 AM
gwasi, I thought about your thread last night. My father remarried about 7 years ago. My parents got divorced after 34 years of marriage. I thought I'd give you some insight as to how I, as an adult who doesn't have to live with my step-mother, feel about this. If I feel this way, I can only imagine how more so a child must feel. Hopefully, it will help you to know how your step-daughter may be feeling. I must stress that despite me feeling all below, my step-mother is a very nice person & makes my Dad very happy. However, it doesn't change these emotions. 
- I resent having to share my Dad with another woman who is not my biological mother.
- I resent having to have a "stranger" share in previously exclusive family holidays/outings/crises/celebrations.
- I resent that my father found someone else to replace my mother.
- I resent that my father puts my step-mother's happiness before my own.
- I resent seeing my step-mother using things in the household that once belonged to my mother.
- I'm saddened that all family celebrations are now an emotional strain due to my parents' divorce & addition of a step-parent.
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