11-08-2006, 08:12 AM
My parents divorced when I was 8 (now in my late 30's).
Although I never got on with my step dad, I was never rude or disrespectful. My sister and I were always polite and certainly didn't make demands or speak rudely to him.
My dad remarried too and my step mom (now ex step mom!!) and I remain very good friends to this day. In fact, she flew to join us in the UK for xmas, even though my half sister (her daughter) is in SA!
Once again, we never disrepected or were rude to her. Although there may have been a few times I resented her. However, she never ever tried to replace my mom. Never insisted on us calling her mom and always remained interested in what we did.
Today we have an excellent friendship. :thumbs:
So, perhaps you should try that type of approach. Insist on respect and general, socially acceptable behaviour, do not tolerate rudeness etc, but, be there for her and pay interest in her interests and try build a relationship.
Although I never got on with my step dad, I was never rude or disrespectful. My sister and I were always polite and certainly didn't make demands or speak rudely to him.
My dad remarried too and my step mom (now ex step mom!!) and I remain very good friends to this day. In fact, she flew to join us in the UK for xmas, even though my half sister (her daughter) is in SA!
Once again, we never disrepected or were rude to her. Although there may have been a few times I resented her. However, she never ever tried to replace my mom. Never insisted on us calling her mom and always remained interested in what we did.
Today we have an excellent friendship. :thumbs:
So, perhaps you should try that type of approach. Insist on respect and general, socially acceptable behaviour, do not tolerate rudeness etc, but, be there for her and pay interest in her interests and try build a relationship.