Lone Parents

[Zulu_Foxtrot]

Originally posted by MissQtoe
OK, OK, there are a few men too

I have sole custody for my 12 year old son, and have raised him solo for most of his life. He has not had contact with his dad for 10 years now, and being a teenager is starting to ask questions. He is so similar to his father. I have shown him photographs of the man, and told him all about the good characteristics the man has.

As a young boy, he often yearned to have a dad like other boys. He has had plenty of role model subtitutes, but I must say things change when they become teenagers.

We are now at a crossroad, in that I think it may be a good idea for him to make contact with his father. (Just to sooth his curiosity, and perhaps to see if the man has some feelings for my son.)

Problem being, is the man is a total alcoholic, and I would not wish my son to feel rejected if the guy is in a drunken stupor. What now?

Thanks, (but I was just clearing my throat) anyhow I digress, it would be a good idea for your son to see his father sooner rather than later, I am in a similar predicament but with the children's mother.

In all the research I have done and in all the people I have spoken to it is far better for the child when entering adulthood to ask and see for themselves why the errant parent left, I know it is hard for you (but that is why they do not allow people in the UK to own guns) so bite your tongue have faith in your son and let him find out for himself - might be a good idea though to have a third party present (like a big burly policeman)