11-08-2006, 12:07 PM
Thanks guys.
Kimbo, she does not call me mom and its up to her if she wants to when she feels she's ready. She gets plenty of hugs and we are involved with her all the time. OK so I'm not allowed to go to birthdays, concerts etc due to her mother and this does confuse her. She doesn't understand why and her dad things she still too young to know the real reasons why the divorce happened (not my doing).
Venus, my mother also has someone new but I don't begrudge him at all. He's a great man and makes my mother happy. I think that is the important factor, as long as they are happy. It's not easy and it does take time to adjust but i'm glad she has someone who treats her respect and loves her for who she is. I'm sorry it couldn't be that way with you and you dads partner.
Jen, She loves to be in control all the time but relishes it when we tell her its time for bed. She has got used to set times and a routine. She asks to if she can her pyjamas on and can she go to bed, she still have a bit of trouble with teeth brushing. Whereas with her mother she can get away with most things, bed at 11.30pm is the norm there. going to the pub with them, which is not right for a child - they need their sleep
She is a happy child but she knows how to push buttons, mine especially. Having said that I do love her and it hurts when she treats me like dirt, but if i've had a bad day she'll come up and give me a huge hug and kiss. She might be a little mixed up. :confused:
Thanks for helping me see that underneath it all she's just a small child who wants love and acceptance. I think, as adults, we tend to forget this.
Kimbo, she does not call me mom and its up to her if she wants to when she feels she's ready. She gets plenty of hugs and we are involved with her all the time. OK so I'm not allowed to go to birthdays, concerts etc due to her mother and this does confuse her. She doesn't understand why and her dad things she still too young to know the real reasons why the divorce happened (not my doing).
Venus, my mother also has someone new but I don't begrudge him at all. He's a great man and makes my mother happy. I think that is the important factor, as long as they are happy. It's not easy and it does take time to adjust but i'm glad she has someone who treats her respect and loves her for who she is. I'm sorry it couldn't be that way with you and you dads partner.
Jen, She loves to be in control all the time but relishes it when we tell her its time for bed. She has got used to set times and a routine. She asks to if she can her pyjamas on and can she go to bed, she still have a bit of trouble with teeth brushing. Whereas with her mother she can get away with most things, bed at 11.30pm is the norm there. going to the pub with them, which is not right for a child - they need their sleep
She is a happy child but she knows how to push buttons, mine especially. Having said that I do love her and it hurts when she treats me like dirt, but if i've had a bad day she'll come up and give me a huge hug and kiss. She might be a little mixed up. :confused:
Thanks for helping me see that underneath it all she's just a small child who wants love and acceptance. I think, as adults, we tend to forget this.