05-01-2007, 09:42 AM
ndlovu, you have my sympathy, it is a highly unpleasant time for you. dudette is spot on with her comments. It is very hard thing to do when your sad and depressed, but you must learn to love yourself again before anything else. Getting fit and loosing weight will help by giving you a sense of accomplishment.
The friendship story is a load of cobblers. It is nearly impossible to convert what was once a romantic relationship back to a friendship. It is perhaps a good ideal to aim for but in reality it just about never happens. Too many bad memories! To me it sounds like your ex partner has behaved in a particularly callous manner.
The thing to focus on is staying sane. Remind yourself a hundred times that the way you are feeling now will not last forever and try not to blame yourself for the break-up. See a help group like RELATE if you think that might help. DonÂ’t isolate yourself.
The friendship story is a load of cobblers. It is nearly impossible to convert what was once a romantic relationship back to a friendship. It is perhaps a good ideal to aim for but in reality it just about never happens. Too many bad memories! To me it sounds like your ex partner has behaved in a particularly callous manner.
The thing to focus on is staying sane. Remind yourself a hundred times that the way you are feeling now will not last forever and try not to blame yourself for the break-up. See a help group like RELATE if you think that might help. DonÂ’t isolate yourself.