09-01-2007, 09:49 AM
Big hugs for you, Ndlovu! :hugs:
I was in a similar position to you many years ago. I went out with a guy for about 5 years & we shared a circle of friends. I was very much in love with him & believed that he was "The One". When he cheated on me, I was heartbroken. I couldn't go out without hearing about him & his new girlfriend, who became his wife. All my friends went to their wedding & I had to hear about what a brilliant weekend everyone had. But I was determined not to lose my friends because of him. Instead I kept my chin up, a smile plastered on my face & even managed to be friendly to his new wife when I eventually couldn't avoid meeting her. When they got divorced because she cheated on him, we sort of became friends again. This was now a good 5 years later & do you know what? I discovered that I still really liked him but the man he'd become wasn't at all the kind of partner that I wanted after all. It was only with making that peace that I was finally able to move on & stop grieving for what might have been.
PS: Do you really want to be with someone you can't trust? If you trusted her, you wouldn't have felt the need to read her notepad.
I was in a similar position to you many years ago. I went out with a guy for about 5 years & we shared a circle of friends. I was very much in love with him & believed that he was "The One". When he cheated on me, I was heartbroken. I couldn't go out without hearing about him & his new girlfriend, who became his wife. All my friends went to their wedding & I had to hear about what a brilliant weekend everyone had. But I was determined not to lose my friends because of him. Instead I kept my chin up, a smile plastered on my face & even managed to be friendly to his new wife when I eventually couldn't avoid meeting her. When they got divorced because she cheated on him, we sort of became friends again. This was now a good 5 years later & do you know what? I discovered that I still really liked him but the man he'd become wasn't at all the kind of partner that I wanted after all. It was only with making that peace that I was finally able to move on & stop grieving for what might have been.
PS: Do you really want to be with someone you can't trust? If you trusted her, you wouldn't have felt the need to read her notepad.
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